Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Happy Thanksgiving Friends , First off, I thank God for my life and yours. Another year of His favor and grace. If it had not been for the Lord on our side, where would we have been. As we get another opportunity to count our blessings, let’s remember it is all the Lord’s doing. Don’t ruin the moment We also get the opportunity  to spend time with family and loved ones on Thanksgiving Day and hopefully throughout this weekend in the USA. Let go of every desire to be right in every conversation as you gather to celebrate. Don’t ruin the moments. Who sit where; does not matter. Who cooked the best food; does not matter. Who said what; does not matter. Take the time to savor the moment of love that this special season brings. Make every moment count and create good memories that will last a lifetime. Listen Make your words as scanty as possible and listen more. Be a healer for someone who is hurting or better still learn something new by listening. Be careful of your words as you might  unknowingly hurt someone. Let your words be words that inspire and encourage others and not words that hurt. You do not have anything to say that adds value, corrects or uplifts then keep quite. Keep the past in the past Do not bring back conversations that were controversial the previous years. Let bygones be bygones. As much as depends on you, do not use this season to discuss heavy […]

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A restful School year

Happy Sunday Friends, As we start the new school year, it is usual to have great expectations and apprehensions at the same time. Parents of  students going to college or kindergarten for the first time might be going through mixed emotions, which  can be overwhelming. Families with children who are already in the school system experience it too. Work , School, extra curricular activities… you name it can all add to the stress. Below are a few suggestions to ease the year and still make a fruitful year. Don’t stress out Ha! What I’m I saying? Easier said than done right. No, we overthink stuff and that is what stresses us up. It’s a new school year. That is just what it is. Don’t make it more than it is. Don’t think about the next day and next week. Just think about today and most importantly what is in front of you right now. Take it a day at a time. Don’t waste the morning thinking about the swim class in the evening. You will not get the morning done well and you will also be frustrated with the evening. Do what needs to be done in the moment. Teen to Teen: 365 Daily Devotions by Teen Guys for Teen Guys Take time to listen Jordan Peterson in his book the 12 Rules for life states “listen, for the next person might know something you do not know”. As parents we lecture our kids all the time and never really […]

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Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day, I will start with a stats. https://www.fatherhood.org/fatherhood-data-statistics The link above puts into perspective of the father absence crisis in America.  The stats is evidence of the importance of a father in a child’s life. Evidence that fathers are not just the providers and protectors of our homes but they provide much more. Father’s provide “something” as I will call it that mothers with all our nurturing are not able to give to our children. I believe God the father made it this way. He as a father is important in our lives and so are our fathers. My thought after looking at those stats was – if the loss of a biological father can lead to all these, how much more not finding our Heavenly Father . I want to thank every father in their child’s life and those who are being fathers to the fatherless. This picture was taken without the knowledge of these men at the Covenant Family Chapel sanctuary on a Sunday. They had no knowledge of the photo being taken and this is something we see on a regular basis at my church. Maybe your question is what does that mean anyway. It means  that despite the stats above, there is also a generation of men who dare to be fathers to their children. When their wives are not available, they come alone with their toddler to church, they cook, they change diapers and much more. May be the question is how did […]

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Dare to define who you are.

Tell me about yourself? This is the question we all get at an interview. It’s an important question for the employer because they need to know who they are hiring. Not only for business purposes but also to know if you are relatable. Will they be able to talk about sports and other social events in the office with you as well. This is also one question that can easily trip you up. Your answer to this question tells a lot about you. It tells the employer what you’re about – your vision and mission summarized. It also sets the direction of the interview conversation. That’s how important this question is. We usually prepare for this question only for interview purpose. We give our best answers whether true or made up to impress – the number of years of experience, our college degrees and our abilities. This makes us look good to the employer and they like us more than all the other candidates and perhaps we secure that position. We usually do not ask ourselves this question. So today I ask the question, Who are you, really ? Maybe you are asking, is this an interview? The answer is no , but many of us have not taken the time to ask this question. We define ourselves by our circumstances and our experiences.  People’s definition of us is convincing enough for us. We have allowed the holes created by our past to define who we are – but is […]

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We walk with you!

  This post from WGTS  91.9 , a radio station in the Washington DC area tends to capture all different mothers and I pray you enjoy it as much as I did. http://www.wgts919.com/mothers-day-blog Happy Mother’s day!!!

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Deliberate rest

Dear mom, Get Rest Rest is not a word you hear with mothers, especially young mothers, but rest is very necessary. It’s an abominable word for most mothers. There is not time in the day to rest. So much to do with just so little time. Take time to rest! There will be no time in the day until you make the time so Make time to rest. Read a book Take a nap Walk and admire nature Put your legs up and just relax Have a “ME” time. You need it. It’s healthy not just for you but your family as well. It also increases creativity and productivity and make you a better mom. If you don’t have any reason to rest today, remember It’s Mother’s Day weekend and you deserve it. Make it count!

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Have a vision

Dear mom,  Where there is no vision, the people perish: Proverbs 29:18a Have a vision as a mother. Make it clear to your children and your family. Be consistent with it. Create a vision board to clarify what you’re about as a mom. It also serves as an inspiration and motivation for you. Today is the perfect day to create a vision board. This was a sample of a grandma’s vision board. You can add and subtract as it best fits for your family. We believe in God and love people. We believe all people are created and loved by God. Our home is a safe haven from the harsh world Our home is our place of peace. We are free to speak but mindful of what we speak. We choose collaboration instead of competition We strive to go higher in whatever we do We choose laughter, peace and joy We celebrate each other Take the time today and clearly state what your vision is. Time to get to the board!  

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Give yourself grace

Dear single mom, I see you! I see you trying to take up two or more jobs to make ends meet. I see the struggle to raise your children by yourself. The nights of no sleep and days of no rest. The period of emptiness and frustration. God knows you personally and calls you by name. You’re not alone. I am a product of  single parenting. My advice : Give yourself grace It is okay not to be okay! It is okay not to be perfect! Remember, Your situation wasn’t a surprise to God and He trusts you with your children. When you need a husband  – Your maker is your husband – Isaiah 54:5 When you need a father for your children – God is the father to the fatherless – Psalm 68:5 When you’re weak – He is your strength – Psalm 28:7 Teach yourself to lean on God’s promises!    

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Leave a legacy

Dear mom, Leave a legacy! Everyone ends up somewhere, few arrive somewhere on purpose. – Lara Casey Whenever we talk about legacy, money comes to mind. But the dictionary defines legacy as a something passed on. It could be money, advice, heritage and so on. What gifts are you leaving behind for your children? Our children will grow. They will influence the world one way or the other. Proverbs 31 holds a lot of weight for me about legacy. In this chapter of Proverbs, King Lemuel writes about the sage advice from his mother when he was growing  up. I believe that advice shaped his life. You are raising someone’s dad, mom, teacher or the next president. Be wise like king Lemuel’s mother. Be intentional about being a mom.  And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 Make it count!

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You’re Enough in Christ!

Dear mom, You are enough in Christ! It is error to say I am enough because we are not but in Christ we are enough. Make these words relevant and don’t just read over them. Don’t get into comparison with anyone or anything.There is no perfect mom, we are all flawed and yet we are enough. Enough for God to trust us with another human being. With all our flaws, we still qualified for the toughest Job posting – to be a mom. We are much more than pretty . . . we are wonderfully made. We are much more than likeable . . . we are deeply loved. We are much more than okay . . . we are daughters of the King. Don’t short change yourself. With much love!  

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